TRANSFORM YOUR TRAUMA TO TRIUMPH!

Life Coach for Trauma Survivors

You may be asking yourself what does a childhood trauma life mentor and coach do?

Well, that's a great question. The first thing that you should know is that I don't consider myself an abuse survivor coach as much a Trauma Warrior Mentor. I don't work with victims I help mold heroes out of the ashes of tragedy. That didn't answer your question. Let me go a little deeper into what you can expect out of a trauma mentor, but before I do I want you to ask yourself a fundamental question: Am I ready to be the hero in my own story?

What I do as a mentor for adults who have survived child abuse is:

• Mentorship - Child abuse is the darkness in which we hide our true selves behind. As a mentor and coach, I guide you through discovering the impact of trauma in childhood as to how the ramifications of abuse can stop you from reaching your full potential.

• Support - The journey to healing is long and difficult for even the toughest of warriors. Childhood trauma and abuse take so much energy to overcome, and one of the best tools in your arsenal is a support system that you can leverage when the going gets tough.

• Guidance - I cannot heal your trauma for you. That is simply impossible. If I could, I would but I can't. What I can do it help you adapt and adopt a new mindset based around understanding the effect of child abuse in adult life, why you are in your own way and how with the tools of the Think Unbroken system you can take your life back

• Tools - Mindset Over Everything. The human brain is capable of accomplishing the most spectacular feats even if the foundation in which you are groomed is in trauma and abuse, you can still create the future that you want. The tools that you will discover within Think Unbroken are real, practical, palatable, and adaptable.

• Mastery - Learn how to truly become the person that you know you are despite your trauma, self-sabotage, negative self-talk, and abuse. Find inner peace, acceptance, self-love, take control over your past, and calm your anxiety, depression, and fears

• Accountability - One of the biggest reasons that people fail to begin the healing process of child abuse is that they can't finish what they start. Have you ever started down the road of healing only to revert back to old ways and habits? You are not alone, and accountability through someone like me is a way to stick to the game plan and turn thoughts into actions

• Gameplan - Together, we will scope out the who, what, when, and most importantly, the why's of your life. Without purpose, direction, attainable goals, set timelines, and effort, you will never get to where you want to be.

You probably have many questions about what it is that at trauma life coach and mentor can do for you and help you with. Below you will find a series of questions that clients have asked me about trauma and abuse coaching and mentoring. If you have specific questions, you can ask me or schedule a free call to find out more about what I do and if we are the right fit for each other.

Trauma-informed Coach with certifications and certificates in:

• Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP)

• Healing Trauma & Addiction

• Healing from the Bottom Up: How to Help Clients Access Resource States

• Understanding Trauma Foundations

• The Gottman Method Approach to Treating Trauma

• Mastering the Craft of Treating Trauma: Four Core Skills

• The Essentials of Effective Trauma Treatment: How to Go Beyond Technique

• Treating Trauma Clients at the Edge

• Cultural and Historical Traumas

• Overcoming Trauma-­Related Shame and Self­-Loathing

• The Complexity of Adaptation to Trauma
  

What is childhood trauma and abuse?

Childhood trauma and abuse stem from the negative impact of the actions of others on/with children. Trauma is not limited to only physical abuse like sexual assault, molestation, or fondling; it also encompasses physical violence against children like hitting, spanking, punching, pushing, and beating. The impacts of child abuse also come from nonviolent abuse like narcissistic behavior from adults, being talked down to, shaming, having right taken away, and being reprimanded or punished for healthy child-like behaviors.

Child abuse and trauma can also come from adults failing to act in ways that protect children. Abuse cause injury, death, emotional harm, or risk of serious harm to a child. There are many forms of traumatic childhood experiences, including neglect and exploitation.

An estimated 70% of adults in the world have experienced at least one traumatic event in their life that has forever impacted them. Some of these events are child abuse, domestic abuse, deaths, accidents, and mental, emotional, unwanted touch, and physical traumas.

Here are some quick facts about adults survivors of child abuse:

• 30% of adults report being physically abused as a child.

• 21% of adults report being sexually abused as a child.

• 11% of adults report being emotionally abused as a child.

You may have been exposed to, witnessed, or experienced violence as a child. Adults may have emotionally or physically neglected you. This means that when you are developing in a traumatizing environment that you may be subject to the impact of trauma as an adult.

I know what I should be doing, but I can't seem to be able to take the first step. Why?

This is a great question and the #1 reason that I mentor Trauma Warriors around the world, why are you stuck and how can we get you unstuck? Being stuck in The Vortex is the reason that you are not fully owning your potential and living the life that you want. The first step is possible once you understand the practical and real-life ways that you take that step.

My childhood had so much trauma and abuse that no one can possibly help me. How can you?

As a mentor for adult survivors of child abuse, I think it would be a massive disservice to you if I didn't have trauma. I am a survivor of child abuse. My story is not that different from many thousands of people in the world. Raised by a drug addict and alcoholic mother who cut my finger off, a father that I never met, a hyper-abusive stepfather, and was molested by a member of the Mormon Church. I had to find their way through the world with no real guidance, compassion, or support. Adopted at 13 by a racist grandmother, I found myself face-first in full-on drug addiction and identity crisis. Yes at 13 I was a drug addict and on my way to alcoholism. Between the guns, drugs, crime, and poverty I was facing life as just another statistic The next 15 years of my life was filled with drugs, alcohol, hookups, suicide attempts, morbid obesity, lies, panic attacks, rage, and ultimately, total breakdown. Then one day, everything changed.

Almost six years I ago, I faced the truth that I was fucking up my life. I was to blame for all the mistakes I was making. And I was the only person that could become the person that I knew I was capable of being. I discovered how to tap into my true inner potential through a series of practices and different modalities around mindfulness, self-love, and understanding the impact of trauma from a scientific level. Today I am the happiest and healthiest I have ever been.

I have seen the darkest of the dark and the lightest of the light. We are in this together.

Is having a child abuse and trauma life coach worth it?

That is for you to determine. There are millions of adults aimlessly wandering with no real direction as to why they can't control their habits, vices, emotions, and feelings after suffering from childhood trauma. Some Trauma Warriors want more from their life than dying with the question of "what if"

Trauma healing life coaching and mentoring can increase your quality of life, boost your self-confidence and self-esteem, pleasure, enjoyment, understanding, attitude, and energy. In addition, you may find your levels of stress, anxiety, depression, and ideations will slowly if not completely dissolve over time.

A trauma mentor and life coach is not worth it if you are not…

• Open to change and new ways of thinking

• Willing to be honest with yourself and your coach

• Ready to be held accountable

• Willing to take action and do the necessary work

What areas of trauma and child abuse do you focus on?

I focus less on the abuse and trauma itself and more on how to understand and navigate the impacts. I am a solution seeker meaning that much like algebraic equations I am also looking to solve for the unknown variable. What is it that is keeping you stuck? Why do you lie, cheat, steal, hurt yourself, hurt others, self-sabotage, and ruin your life? Not only do I help you understand those questions without judgment, but I also help you formulate a plan of attack in moving through them.

Do I need a childhood trauma and abuse coach and mentor?

I think that anyone who has suffered severe abuse and neglect regardless of age should seek guidance from an outside source that can help them understand and navigate the implications of what they experienced. As a childhood trauma coach and mentor, I can find the areas that may unlock parts of you that you have been seeking to tap into for your entire life. It is through my unbiased opinion, open and nonjudgmental communication, and guidance that you can get out of The Vortex and take your life back.

What's the difference between a therapist and a trauma and abuse coach and mentor?

Therapists will typically focus on pain areas of the past, use a passive/non-active approach, look at things through a diagnostic or medical approach, and fit you into a predetermined model. Therapy also takes a considerable amount of time and commitment. To find real efficacy in therapy can take years and even decades. Finding the right therapist plays a pivotal role in the healing process.

As a child abuse mentor and coach, my focus is on very crucial and critical areas:

• Identification - Together we'll discover what is keeping you stuck

• Empowerment - I will help you uncover the tools to empower yourself and solve your own problems and create solutions through understanding yourself.

• Future - We will create the future you want by creating a road map and vision of what you deserve

• Possibilities - We will open up the world of your power and ability

• Self-discovery - We will take a deep dive into who you are, where you want to go and how to get there

• Inner work - We'll explore the honest inner workings of who you are

• Practices - Through mindset and awareness modalities we'll get you reconnected to yourself

• Measurable results - You will grow through tracking progress, creating measurable and attainable goals, and focusing on the No Excuses Just Results mentality

• Time frame - My aim is not to keep you as a client for life. If that happens, then I have failed at my role as a childhood trauma coach. My mission is to get you out on your own way by living the life that you want as soon as possible. For some Trauma Warriors, this may take a couple of sessions for others a couple of years.

Are there areas that Child Abuse Coaches and Mentors that you don't focus on?

There are not a lot of areas that I am afraid to approach with the Trauma Warriors I work with. I treat each person on a case by case basis and customize the work that we do around specific needs. If I feel that I cannot successfully help you navigate what you need assistance with or find a solution, then I will help you find someone that can.

Should I hire you as my cPTSD life coach, so I get over my trauma and abuse?

The short answer is only if you are ready to commit to change. The reality is that if you are not:

• Ready to be emotionally vulnerable

• Face the challenges ahead

• Willing to stop making excuses

• Committed To your greatness

• Brutally honest with yourself

• Open to the fact that change doesn't come overnight

• Accepting that there is no magic pill to heal trauma

• Ready to face your biggest fears of self

• Willing to be held accountable in a way you never have

• Open to taking action that will change your life

• Committed to investing whatever it takes into yourself

...Then you are not ready

How long have you been a coach and mentor for adult survivors of child abuse?

I have been sharing my story and guidance for a couple of years now. In that process, I have guided many people to a better understanding of themselves. It has been through the processed created in Think Unbroken that they have been able to turn dreams into reality.

Why did you decide to become a life coach and mentor for child abuse?

I tell people this all the time, and I mean it when I say that I didn't sign up for this job. No part of me ever imagined a day when I would be helping other survivors of child abuse find their way out of The Vortex, but it is truly my calling. I want others to know that if I can make it then so can they. Childhood trauma does not have to control us!

What do you love about mentoring and coaching people who survived childhood trauma and abuse?

The best moment for me is when someone tells me that I have given them the tools that have changed their life. There is nothing more fulfilling than knowing that someone has been allowed to fully own who they know they are. The thing I love the most about mentoring Trauma Warriors is when they no longer need my help.

What is the biggest challenge that you have overcome in your own life outside of being an abuse coach and mentor?

Owning myself. Stepping into my potential and becoming who I truly am is the hardest thing I have ever done. Surviving child abuse was easier than becoming myself.

What type of adult survivors of child abuse and trauma do you work with the most?

I work with Trauma Warriors who are ready to do whatever it takes no matter what to get their lives back. I only work with people who are willing to do EVERYTHING in their power to reach their greatest potential and become the person that they know they are. The road is not easy, and I will support you all the way, but you have to be willing to support yourself more.

How would you describe your method as a trauma mentor and coach?

My approach is straightforward. I will come at you will complete honesty, understanding, and non-confrontational communication. I am not here to scare you into submission so that you become your highest self. I am here to support your journey from abuse to HERO in any way that I can. I will not sugar coat anything so you must indeed be ready to take your power back!

Do you offer online trauma and abuse mentorship and coaching?

Yes. I work primarily online. By special arrangements, I can schedule in-person Trauma Coaching sessions if we are in the same city.

How was Think Unbroken trauma coaching and mentoring created?

Think Unbroken has been meticulously crafted from decades of work. I have read and studied countless books on mental and emotional health, attended seminars and symposiums on trauma and mental health, hosted and attended many workshops on mindset, and have taken bits and pieces of all of the tools, studies, research, and practices and shaped them into Think Unbroken. Additionally, I am always educating myself about the impact of child abuse and trauma, mindset practices, the efficacy of awareness, and how to be a better coach and mentor. That's the long answer.

The short answer is I am a product of my product, and I know these tools work.

What are the process behind the Think Unbroken Trauma and abuse coaching?

The system I developed is a 6 stage process:

• Understanding the foundation of trauma and how it impacts you

• Diving deep into who you are

• Challenging yourself and identifying who you want to be

• Creating a plan of attack

• Naming the hidden parts of you and battling your shadow

• Implementing a plan to stay the course

You keep saying The Vortex. What does that mean to abuse survivors?

Let's schedule a call and dive in! Click here to schedule your FREE first call.

How do I know if you are the right trauma and cptsd mentor for me? If we don't match?

I am not for everyone, and everyone is not for me. I look at the work that we do together as an energy exchange, and you have to be willing to give your all so that I can do so in return. We have to have the right connection, short term and long term goals, and willingness to dedicate ourselves to the same path to be successful.

My job as a trauma coach and mentor is about giving you every single tool at my disposal to ensure your success in life. As a coach for adult survivors of child abuse I have dedicated all of my resources to personal development, mental and emotional growth, understanding human behavior and why we do what we do, mindfulness practices such as meditation and visualization, wellness habits including diet and exercise, personal training (ACE Certified), and human psychology focused on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Gestalt practices to give you every advantage!

I have dedicated countless years, finances, and resources into healing my own trauma and abuse. What you are left with is an opportunity to take advantage of the victories and successes, lessons, and mistakes that I have made and learned from.

My mission is to be the catalyst to success in your trauma healing journey. I am an advocate for your purpose, and as your advocate, I care about your well-being and have your best interest and success in mind.

I am emphatic, compassionate, kind, caring, intuitive, insightful, perceptive, practical, grounded, supportive, reliable, bold, honest, resourceful, understanding, trustworthy, and professional so that you can be those things for yourself.

I may not be the right Trauma Coach for you, and that's OK. Let's start with a call to find out.

What will happen in the trauma coaching sessions that I have with you?

Our sessions are based around your needs, and each session will be different as we identify your pain points, victories, successes, and road map to success. We'll check-in, reference our game plan, and talk about what's working and what's not on your mission. Ultimately, the time we spend together is space held for you to continue your journey to healing, happiness, and sustainability after childhood trauma.

What can I expect from you after our sessions?

Every Trauma Warrior has a different need. The work that we do is fully customizable to suit your healing journey. Some request multiple weekly check-ins, and for others, our weekly meetings are sufficient.

Can trauma and abuse coaching sessions be rescheduled?

There are always circumstances in which reschedules are needed.

How much are trauma and abuse coaching and mentorship with you?

We will discuss all the details on our first call, which is at no cost to you. Click here to schedule your introductory call and discover how Think Unbroken can help you take your life back!

Are you ready to be the hero of your own story?

Here are a handful more of the most common questions that I get asked as an Adults Survivor of Child Abuse Mentor:

What else will you do as my child abuse and trauma recovery life coach and mentor?

• Help you explore the vulnerable sides of your wants, needs, and interests

• Give you the ability to clarify what you expect from yourself

• Ask you provoking questions to challenge your thought process

• Equip you with the tools to face your fear

• Show you how to remove distractions and focus

• Teach you how to rewards yourself

• Support you on your journey to self-discovery through trauma

• Help you identify emotional triggers and how to navigate them

• Take you through self-identifying exercises

• Teach you how to create gratitude despite trauma and abuse

• Give you support in setting goals and reaching them

• Discover how to do things that are in your best interest

• Break old patterns and negative self-talk

• Identify problem areas and create plans to disrupt them

• Give you feedback

• Teach you how to be self-sufficient

• Guide you to intrinsic motivation

• Give you a baseline to build on

• Become more confident

• Establish life plans and actionable tasks

• Increase your productivity

• Decipher the impact of child abuse and trauma on you

• Learn how to be calm in the face of adversity

• Give you the space to be heard

• Teach you how to not give up on yourself despite the trauma

• Learn a new perspective and why child abuse has interrupted your processes

• Guide you to self-belief

• Teach you accountability for yourself

• Guide you to moving through trauma and abuse

• Show you how to interrupt self-sabotage

• Learn how to stop procrastinating

• Release negative thoughts and use them as fuel

• Get out of your comfort zone

• Assist you in the trauma healing process

• Help you get out of your own head

• Teach you how to manifest and take action

• Find solutions in everyday problems

• What are the other benefits of having a trauma life coach and mentor?

• Increased clarity of who you are and where you are going

• Finding ways to get more results in life, business, and relationships

• Creating new avenues of focus

• Dramatically improve the quality of your expectation of life

• Increase real and measurable productivity

• Learn to become outgoing and social

• Set goals and accomplish them

• Decipher decisions that impact you

• Mastery over your mindset

• Learn how to overcome obstacles and objections

• Tap into self-motivation

• Decide what success means in your life

• Develop sustainable habits

• Lower stress, worries, and anxiety through mindfulness and other practices

• Discover how to be empowered and take control over your trauma

• Find peace

• Overcome fears of love and companionship

• Experience happiness

• Exchange bad behaviors through acceptance and self-love

• Create manageable and measurable progress

• Learn to love yourself

I'm still not sure if I need a trauma recovery life coach and abuse mentor. How else can I know?

• Are you easily triggered and don't know why?

• Are you unhappy with the state of your life?

• Are you still impacted by child abuse in ways that keep you from being happy?

• Do your behaviors negatively impact the people around you?

• Do you feel out of touch with reality?

• Do you think about giving up?

• Are you missing the clarity and feel like you are stuck?

• If everyday life and the little things a struggle?

• Are you lost in seeking a purpose?

• Do you feel trapped in memories of abuse and trauma?

• Is getting out of bed the thing you dread the most?

• Do you feel like you are not living up to your full potential?

• Do you have flashbacks from traumatic events?

• Do you self-sabotage?

• Do you find yourself not feeling worthy of love and companionship?

• Is everyone around you telling you that you need to seek help?

• Have you read all the self-help books and nothing has changed?

• Do you get easily distracted and lose focus?

• Do you blame others for your mistakes and shortcomings?

• Are you struggling with your self-image?

• Have you lost jobs or relationships because you aren't giving them your all?

• Do you feel entirely unfulfilled with everything you do?

• Is your mental and physical health failing?

• Do you feel like you have tried everything?

• Does it feel like the weight of your trauma and abuse is still haunting you?

• Do you feel disconnected from reality?

• Do little things piss you off?

• Are you subject to fits of rage and anger?

• Do you always not feel "good enough" or worthy?

• Do you seek validation from others?

• Are you unorganized?

• Is your self-esteem tied to drugs, sex, or alcohol?