Creating meaning in our choices as CPTSD survivors

There is a place that we get trapped in the choices that we make. I want to think that conflict happens when there is a collision of values between the person you were and the person you are becoming. In the moments of change in the healing process, we reach plateaus, not as in the end but as in a time to create a shift. When this happens, we are faced with making a choice: do we act according to the person we were or the person we have become and are moving in towards.

We hit a wall in indecision or reverting to old behavior patterns as a coping mechanism and consequence of our experiences leading up to now. Being stuck in that place of making the wrong choices or worse, being ambivalent about the decision is our shadow self's attempt at keeping us from what is next in our lives. The old us wants nothing more than for us to stay the same. Growth is scary, and stepping into the newfound territory by leveraging personal growth, personal boundaries, and doing the right things the right way is unknown. Thus, in moments of choice, it is easy to fall into the trap of not recognizing why we do what we do.

Creating intention in conjunction with merely pausing for a moment to evaluate an action before we take it is paramount in ensuring that we are not doing something for the sake of avoidance but instead to do what we know is right for us at that moment. 

I say if you want to indulge, then indulge but for the right reasons. Are you going to enjoy your choice or be faced with regret and your inner critic an hour later? If so, pause and take inventory of where you are. Are you avoidant? Procrastinating? Or hiding from something important in the moment of indulgence? Or are you a place that you need a break, to watch a movie, or get buried in something fun for a while? Everything that we do has a meaning attached.

Don't get stuck in the trap of being pulled back into old behavior patterns, which can quickly spiral into a week or month of self-loathing and criticism by simply asking yourself - does this serve me at this moment, or am I hiding? The shadow-self loves nothing more than the moment that you intentionally let yourself down. 

Expect that new plateaus are going to appear daily as you grow and shift. Be mindful that these plateaus are not stopping point but instead new baselines of measurement for the person you have now become.

Self-sabotage is often a coping mechanism for fear of the unknown power you possess, but you possess the power not to sabotage yourself.

Until next time my friend…

Be Unbroken,

-Michael 

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